You Can’t Skip the Steps

This week the Lord has been ministering to me about the word that makes many believers cringe… PROCESS 😓 Logically speaking, we all can acknowledge that all tasks are completed through a process and each step in the process is essential.

For example, when it comes to baking a cake, we know that certain ingredients are required; however, it’s not worth having all of the ingredients if you don’t follow the steps required for cooking them. If you put cake mix, eggs, water, and oil in a pan without mixing the ingredients together I can guarantee that your cake will not be edible. We can apply this metaphor to steps taken towards fulfilling our divine purpose on Earth.

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Feminine Care

Hey Queens,

I sincerely apologize for there not being a post on Wednesday; however, here I am today.

Today’s topic is tender love and care for your lady parts. I’m sure we all know that if we don’t treat them with TLC, the end result won’t be good. I’m not a gynecologist, but I’ve learned quite a few things in my almost 27 years of life about health and safety for our vaginas.

I specifically want to talk about a product I have been using for about two months to clean my lady parts. It’s called The Honey Pot. I first heard of this company on T-Pain’s show, T-Pain’s School of Business. I was intrigued because first and foremost, the company was created by a woman of color AND the vaginal wash is all-natural. The owner, Beatrice Feliu-Espada says that she suffered from Bacteria Vaginosis for a whole year until she created the perfect concoction to heal her from it.

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Self Worth

Sometimes in life we as woman forget who we TRULY are as believers in Christ.

At a time in my life, I didn’t know who I was. I would compare myself to other people, especially on social media. I saw other women my age with thousands of likes on their posts. Here I am with maybe 25 likes at the most on Instagram. I would try to make my profile public to get more views on the IG Story. I also thought well maybe guys would hit up my inbox. So just let me take a sexy picture of myself and post it. In the end I tried and tried and nothing seem to work.

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Practical Dating Tips for the Millennial Woman


Let’s just face it… Dating in today’s world is HARD! I know the struggle all too well even though I’m married now. I struggled with dating for four years before I met my husband. With social media on the rise, the lack of family structure, and a generation that doesn’t have relationships with God, it can be quite discouraging. It seems like most men AND women don’t want commitment anymore. Either they’ve been heartbroken and cheated on, or they just have no desire to get married. If marriage is not something you desire, that’s totally fine, but if you do, keep reading!

Here are some practical tips to help you have a successful dating journey.

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Work Your Purpose Part 2


I’m back with part 2! In part 1, I discussed finding your purpose and living in it, but in part 2, I’m going to be talking about taking God’s vision for your life to the next level. First, I want to say that I don’t move without God. If he’s silent for a season, then I wait until he reveals the next step of the plan.

I recently took a 1-month hiatus from social media. It was a fast. I had to let my flesh know who dominates it by getting my priorities in check. Taking a step away from social media gave me clarity, and God spoke to me about my next steps for my brand. Within the next few months, you guys will see all this unfold.

Sometimes God’s purpose for your life could be you leading a ministry at church or serving in volunteer work or missions, but sometimes God might require you to make your passion a business and career. In part 1, I used the example of having a passion for hair, so I will continue with this example.

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My Skincare Faves ft. Nolaskinsentials

Happy Hump Day Queens!

If you’ve been following this blog for awhile, you should know about my love for skincare. I love trying new products and finding the best way to care for the supple skin God has blessed me with. You only get one face, and I want it to look as healthy and youthful for as long as possible!

NOTE: This is not a paid advertisement. I purchased all these products and these are my true thoughts.

Back in February I posted my skincare routine, but since then a lot of things have changed. I started using new products last month and I am totally in love. The company is called Nolaskinsentials, and their products are vegan and all-natural. They offer a range of products for ALL skin types too. So if you struggle with dark spots, acne or even dryness, they have a full range of products specifically for your problems.

I’m a dry skin girl, especially in the winter! My skin feels so rough and it even cracks all over my body. I have to keep exfoliation on rotation and a great moisturizer to protect me from the harsh DMV weather. Most moisturizers do a pretty good job for me, but some leave me TOO moisturized and borderline greasy. But I finally found the perfect moisturizer!

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Work Your Purpose Part 1

I’m back with another blog post! This topic is really important to me. Why? Because I feel that everyone should know their purpose and work it. You. Yes, you, should know exactly why God placed you on this Earth. It’ll make figuring out a career and your future a little easier.

Most people who don’t know their purpose or who know their purpose, but aren’t working it, always feel unfulfilled. They often feel like something is missing. They might make six-figures, drive a luxury car, own their home, have a husband/wife and kids, but something still feels like it’s missing. They might enjoy their job, but have desires and passions that lie elsewhere. Does this sound like you? It’s time to work your purpose!

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Spiritual Maintenance: Letting Go of Toxic Friendships


I’m baaaacccckkk! I know. It’s been way too long, and I promise not to take a 6-month hiatus like this again for a long time. Life has been moving at the speed of light, and I am now a married woman. Allow me to reintroduce myself. My name is Mrs. Lewis! LOL

Now into today’s heavy topic… whew! Where do I begin? Toxic friends can feel like a huge burden on your chest. It can feel like you’re gasping for air, but no one is there to save you. It’s deep. Toxicity interferes with the energy around you and tries to suck your soul away like a tornado. Can anyone relate?

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My Skincare Routine


Today’s topic is skincare. A topic that I’ve actually recently become quite obsessed with. Well maybe not obsessed, but extremely intrigued. I like trying different products and seeing how they contribute to my skin’s health or detriment. I will preface this blog post by saying that I have never had “bad” skin. Thankfully, I’ve never experienced break outs (minus a small pimple when it’s that time of the month), scarring, or extreme redness/dark spots. My skin is pretty much unproblematic; however, I do believe that the products I use and the care I show my skin keeps it glowing and prevents it from encountering any craziness.

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Prayer v. Manifestation

My apologies for not posting last week. I wasn’t feeling well. But, I’m back and I’m better (Bryson Tiller voice) LOL. Anyways, today’s post is about prayer v. manifestation.

I’ve been seeing so many posts about manifestation and to keep it real it’s starting to upset me. Hear me out… I understand that everyone does not believe in God or in prayer, but the posts I’ve been seeing about manifestation make it seem like anything you wish for happens. As a Christian, I just can’t get into it.

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Puppy Mom 101

Dear Queens,

I’m praying you have been well since my blog post last week. Today I’m going to be talking about my journey of being a puppy mom. I’ve been a puppy mom for about three months now and its been a whirlwind of emotions. My patience has never been tested so much. I consider myself an extremely patient person, but my puppy Bentley has sure been testing my title.

Being a puppy mom is HARD. I had no clue what I was doing for the first month. I got Bentley when he was 9 going on 10 weeks, so he was a baby baby. He couldn’t even walk up or down curbs. I had to pick him up to pretty much do everything.

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2019 Goals

Happy New Year Queens!

I hope the past 17 days of the new year has been amazing for you. 2019 is breezing on by just like 2018. Whew! Anyways, today’s post is about my goals for 2019. I don’t make resolutions, but I make goals and then check at the end of the year to see how many I accomplished. For 2018 I actually accomplished most of my goals and I didn’t even realize it until I looked back at what I wrote. This year, I hope to accomplish ALL of my goals. What are your goals? Here is a list of mine.

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Should Cardi B Take Offset Back?

Hey Queens!

As you are probably well-aware, Cardi B and Offset have been heating social media up for the past few days. The biggest question is if they will reconcile, and this whole situation has been grinding my gears, so I decided to blog about it.

First, I would like to say that at the end of the day, Cardi B is entitled to make the best choice for HER and Kulture, and it’s really none of my business what she decides; however, I want to talk about how this situation has amplified how dysfunctional society and their views on relationships are.

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My Issues with Social Media

My Dearest Queens!

How was your Thanksgiving? I hope it was filled with family, love, and great food. Today I’m going to be talking about what bothers me about social media.

For months I couldn’t pinpoint why I was having such a love/hate relationship with social media (specifically Instagram). Since about the end of August I found myself posting less and not even having the desire to. Of course I would still scroll occasionally to get the latest tea from The Shaderoom. I mean who’s not guilty of that? LOL. But something was different. Why didn’t I want to post and live my life off of social media?

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