Spiritual Maintenance: Letting Go of Toxic Friendships


I’m baaaacccckkk! I know. It’s been way too long, and I promise not to take a 6-month hiatus like this again for a long time. Life has been moving at the speed of light, and I am now a married woman. Allow me to reintroduce myself. My name is Mrs. Lewis! LOL

Now into today’s heavy topic… whew! Where do I begin? Toxic friends can feel like a huge burden on your chest. It can feel like you’re gasping for air, but no one is there to save you. It’s deep. Toxicity interferes with the energy around you and tries to suck your soul away like a tornado. Can anyone relate?

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My Skincare Routine


Today’s topic is skincare. A topic that I’ve actually recently become quite obsessed with. Well maybe not obsessed, but extremely intrigued. I like trying different products and seeing how they contribute to my skin’s health or detriment. I will preface this blog post by saying that I have never had “bad” skin. Thankfully, I’ve never experienced break outs (minus a small pimple when it’s that time of the month), scarring, or extreme redness/dark spots. My skin is pretty much unproblematic; however, I do believe that the products I use and the care I show my skin keeps it glowing and prevents it from encountering any craziness.

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Prayer v. Manifestation

My apologies for not posting last week. I wasn’t feeling well. But, I’m back and I’m better (Bryson Tiller voice) LOL. Anyways, today’s post is about prayer v. manifestation.

I’ve been seeing so many posts about manifestation and to keep it real it’s starting to upset me. Hear me out… I understand that everyone does not believe in God or in prayer, but the posts I’ve been seeing about manifestation make it seem like anything you wish for happens. As a Christian, I just can’t get into it.

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Puppy Mom 101

Dear Queens,

I’m praying you have been well since my blog post last week. Today I’m going to be talking about my journey of being a puppy mom. I’ve been a puppy mom for about three months now and its been a whirlwind of emotions. My patience has never been tested so much. I consider myself an extremely patient person, but my puppy Bentley has sure been testing my title.

Being a puppy mom is HARD. I had no clue what I was doing for the first month. I got Bentley when he was 9 going on 10 weeks, so he was a baby baby. He couldn’t even walk up or down curbs. I had to pick him up to pretty much do everything.

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2019 Goals

Happy New Year Queens!

I hope the past 17 days of the new year has been amazing for you. 2019 is breezing on by just like 2018. Whew! Anyways, today’s post is about my goals for 2019. I don’t make resolutions, but I make goals and then check at the end of the year to see how many I accomplished. For 2018 I actually accomplished most of my goals and I didn’t even realize it until I looked back at what I wrote. This year, I hope to accomplish ALL of my goals. What are your goals? Here is a list of mine.

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Should Cardi B Take Offset Back?

Hey Queens!

As you are probably well-aware, Cardi B and Offset have been heating social media up for the past few days. The biggest question is if they will reconcile, and this whole situation has been grinding my gears, so I decided to blog about it.

First, I would like to say that at the end of the day, Cardi B is entitled to make the best choice for HER and Kulture, and it’s really none of my business what she decides; however, I want to talk about how this situation has amplified how dysfunctional society and their views on relationships are.

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My Issues with Social Media

My Dearest Queens!

How was your Thanksgiving? I hope it was filled with family, love, and great food. Today I’m going to be talking about what bothers me about social media.

For months I couldn’t pinpoint why I was having such a love/hate relationship with social media (specifically Instagram). Since about the end of August I found myself posting less and not even having the desire to. Of course I would still scroll occasionally to get the latest tea from The Shaderoom. I mean who’s not guilty of that? LOL. But something was different. Why didn’t I want to post and live my life off of social media?

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My Experience with Therapy

Hello Queens!

I hope the past few weeks have been a blessing to you. I try to post once a week, but of course something always gets in the way. I am a mom of a new pup (blog post coming soon), so I’ve been busy training him and loving on him.

Today’s topic is therapy/counseling. I just finished my third session with my therapist, and I can say that I have made progress so far. I feel a lot better and I believe it is a great tool even if you aren’t struggling with things like depression and anxiety. My first session was all about intake, so she got to know me and what I was struggling with. My last two sessions have been us identifying what I want to work on as well as her asking me what has been going on in my life and giving me suggestions on how to deal with certain issues.

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A Self-Care Guide for Selfless Women

Hey Queens!

This week I am back with a topic that is near and dear to my heart because I do not practice enough of self-care. I literally will burn myself out trying to make other people happy. It’s the selfless quality in me, but it is becoming quite paralyzing. My therapist said that I give too much of myself to others, and have nothing left for me in return. She also said that having a big heart and serving others isn’t a bad thing, but it can’t be the ONLY thing I do. She’s completely right. I’m always on the go and I honestly think about myself last in almost every scenario. I don’t know how I got this way, but it’s becoming exhausting, and definitely lending to my depression.

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