The Life of a Single Woman in a Ratchet World

So I know you're probably cracking up after reading the title of this post, but ya girl had to keep it 100. LOL. Let's be real, living the single life can be the struggle, but being single in this ratchet world will have you looking like this


Seriously, at least once a day I'm that confused emoji wondering how this world became so ratchet. I guess we can thank Mona Scott for that...


No shade Mona LOL! But, all jokes aside this world really is becoming more and more ratchet. It's acceptable to be a side chick and to take your child's father back after he's cheated on you 10 times. Oh, not to mention there's women fighting on TV for ratings, and men out here wearing wigs and twerking. This is our ratchet reality.

Sex is plastered everywhere and to a woman practicing "The Wait," you know that means no dates for me. My dating life is pretty non-existent. I'm OK with it though, but I won't lie, it can be frustrating when the media and society has tainted love. Instead of men falling in love with you just because of who you are, things have flipped and it's what you can do for a man. If I can't show him my freakiest move in the bedroom, then he's chucking up the deuces.

I know someone out there can relate to what I'm saying. I hate to say that there is a lack of good men out there because I know there are plenty of wholesome, Christian men out there, but from my experience throughout the last two years, I haven't really met any. It's either the guy who seems nice, but ends up being a grown little boy or the guy who tries to ask you on a date because you're "cute," but doesn't know anything about you. Sometimes I want to bang my head on a wall! Not because I don't believe there's a man out there for me, but because these men and this ratchet behavior is ruining the hope of many good women out here.

I can't count the number of conversations I've had with my girlfriends about the craziness that exists today, and the ones who are in relationships don't wish to be single in this ratchet world.

My singleness has definitely been a journey, but now I can say that I'm content in being alone. Don't get me wrong, there are those days where I see most of my friends posting pictures with their men or hear dating stories from them, and I'm like "Dang. I wish I had a companion." But those feelings soon fade into the distance when I'm reminded that my happiness lies in Jesus Christ; not in a man.

Honestly, I believe I'm in my hidden phase. This means that God is hiding me so that I can only be seen by my husband. I rarely get attention from men, and if I do it's not from anyone I would give time out of my day. I used to ask God why no one has really approached me since 2014, and he replied, "I don't want you to be distracted. Work on you until it's time." I'm confident that my future husband will find me in perfect timing!

I want to hear your stories! How has your single season been?

XO, Jess